Four Ways to Begin to Take Control of Your Trauma, Drama, or Burnout
Burning essential oils, going for a walk, or taking a hot shower is only going to help so much unless you actually know the difference between trauma, drama, burnout, and what you can and can’t control.
When I accepted the fact that my fear of flying, for example, was irrational and that it was getting worse, I started doing some research on how I can begin to control the irrational behavior that followed after we boarded a plane as a family. I came across this in my research…
Here are the four steps you can take to begin to take control over your anxiety, stress, trauma, drama, or burnout and to know the difference between the things you can and cannot change, so you can take much needed action.
First, list all of the things that are stressors or triggers in your life, both professionally and personally. Anything that causes you to dread going to school on Monday or facing a certain person or situation in life.
Next, mark each stressor as ‘drama’ or ‘trauma’.
If you’re dealing with drama, you really do have control over whether or not you choose to stay a part of whatever it is that is a situation or reoccurring events of conflict.
If it’s trauma, then you need to take a time out and decide the best path you can take to take care of your mental health. Trauma has residual effects on our health and emotions. Do NOT ignore the signs and symptoms of physiological injury or pain.
After that, mark each of your stressors as ‘can’ or ‘can’t’. Some things you can control and some things you can’t. For example:
I hate my administrator. She makes life hard for all of us. (Drama) (can try to build a bridge) (can’t control her personality or behavior)
I work nights and weekends and feel that I’m always trying to keep my head above water. (drama) (can take action)
I can’t stop thinking about my dad dying so soon. I’m so sad. It’s all I think about. (trauma) (can’t change it) (can take action)
TAKE ACTION. Have the hard conversation. Ask the tough questions (of yourself and those you need to communicate with). Take the risks. You cannot get out of drama, trauma, or teacher burnout unless you take appropriate actions to get out of the situation you are in whether it be digging out of the mountain of papers to grade or a bad relationship.
This is different for everyone, everywhere. We are made up of different DNA, living in different parts of the world, and dealing with different stressors.
You have to being by knowing you’re in control… because that ultimately leads to BURN IN!